How do you deal with people in your life that you don’t like? What’s the funniest thing that happened in your childhood? What actor would play you in a movie about your life? If you want to see your relationship grow, you'll have to ask questions - lots of them. Learning about someone's past can be tricky; you don't want to seem like you're giving them the third degree, but at the same time you want to know more about them. of The Couples Institute, recommends playing Twenty Questions with your partner because "They [questions] allow you to discover or rediscover who your partner is." By developing a deeper understanding of your partner's mind and spirit, you could find yourself more deeply in love.Literally millions of people (including me) who first met online are now married, and psychologists are starting to examine these relationships. One independent study surveyed almost 20,000 Americans who met their spouse online.If you meet online does that tend to make you more or less compatible? Those of us who met their partners online will find the results encouraging. In fact, people who met online were slightly less likely to divorce and scored slightly higher on marital satisfaction.” (Bohannon, 2013, Online marriage is a happy marriage). scientific support for what many of us have known for years – meeting someone online can work. If you didn’t have to worry about money or a job, where would you live in the world? What was the last book that you got so absorbed in that you couldn’t put it down?
But before we get started on When you first meet someone you are interested in, you can spend more energy trying to make sure that they like you, than thinking about whether or not you like them.
You could each write down questions on scraps of paper--serious and fun so the mood doesn't get too heavy - and throw them into jars (yours in one, his in another).
Take turns fishing out questions and answering them.
Just today, I was on the phone with a client who was sharing the same experience with me: “ It wasn’t until she showed me one really GOOD email from a guy that she started to get it. But look at the emails you write back to the boring men.
He asked her a silly question and started grilling her with more and more trivia questions, teasing her about what she might win if she got all the questions right. “It made me funny in response to him,” she replied. They’re just as boring as the ones that you received.